If you are like most, you have at least a few changes you would like to make in your life. You may want to build a stronger body, have a more meaningful relationship with your Sweetheart, be successful in your fledging business venture, or finish that novel, a pile of papers in a box on the bottom shelf of the closet on its last breath. We may try to jump start our efforts by reading a book on motivation and behavior or spend an hour with TED talks. We can become all fired up and ready to roll except that this is followed by let down, inertia and a feeling of failure that we make worse with an incessant inner self-critical ranting. We may be approaching change by walking hopelessly down the wrong path or in the wrong direction. These five steps might help to overcome our obstacles.
Change takes time. Allow yourself to be a beginner. Go out there and make some mistakes.
Practice makes perfect is still true whether we are learning to play the piano or become a better listener.
Change comes with more ease when we have a coach. It is important to choose someone who is knowledgeable about what you want to achieve and skilled in the art of motivation and support.
Visualize your success as you step more fully into the changes you want to make. Imagine each day in your mind’s eye reaching your dream and the prize that you are working toward. You don’t have to sit in disciplined meditation for this. In fact it is better to be in motion, walking or swimming as you visualize. This draws the dream into the body and the body’s wisdom and will bring greater ease to the journey.
When you reach your dreamed of destination, teach what you have learned to someone who has the same goals.