Psychologists tell us most people negotiate life from a certain happiness set point. We may deviate up or down from our set point, but only slightly and for short periods. The good news is we can raise the set point. Here’s how.
Develop a sense of awe. As you go about your day, notice what amazes you.
Find a friend. Engage with people who have similar interests.
Replace the urge to blame with “Don’t know mind”, a Buddhist concept that softens our emotional grip and clears the mind. Ask yourself, “Can I be absolutely certain that someone is to blame?”
When you feel the urge to control someone else’s behavior, focus on your own pleasure and plans instead.
Replace criticism with love. Somewhere it is written, “Love is the pleasure of focusing on the virtues of another.”
Instead of complaining that something or someone is against you, get busy making a list of ten creative solutions to your problem.
Fill your life with experiences, not things.
When Negative Nelly is settling in, creating a nest in your mind, remind yourself of what you are grateful for.
Ditch anyone who doesn’t appreciate you. Think of hanging out with negative people as inhaling second hand smoke.
Every day, find something or someone that inspires you.
Set goals that are challenging and driven by your personal values.
Danger is real. Fear is nothing more than a thought. First know which you are dealing with. Most of the time it is fear. Find a way through it and take a leap of faith.
Be present. Remember that we are anxious because we are not living in the present moment.
Wishing you a joyful journey along your happiness path!